Thursday, August 28, 2008

Saying goodbye

The past two years have been some of the greatest years of my life. It is not because I'm better off financially. It is not because I've enjoyed more success. It is not because of anything material. It is because of relationships. For the past two years I have been loved, encouraged, and taken care of by some of the greatest people on earth.

Two years ago I began meeting with a cell family. These are groups of 6-12 people at The Bridge Community that do life together to grow in relationship with God and each other. Tonight, I passed on the torch to Andy and Justin. I acted as if the night wasn't special; but I could not have been more proud. These people have impacted my life and the relationships will continue. I'm moving on so that more people in The Bridge Community can experience authentic community and spiritual growth.

I will never forget.

I will never forget the tears. I will never forget the joy. I will never forget the love. I will never forget calling each other to repentance and faith. I will never forget sharing new life together. I will never forget any of you.

I can truthfully say, I love you all.
(not pictured: Stephanie, Becky, Erica, and Bethany)







Doing Life Together












I met tonight for the second time with our newest Cell Family at The Bridge Community. We met for the purpose of authentic community and spiritual growth. Our meeting consisted of fellowship, prayer, and Bible. Tonight we studied Matthew 22:34-40 and John 13:34-35. We discussed the importance of relationships in the Christian life. We are to love God and love our neighbors. John 13 even declares that the world will know we are disciples if we love one another.

This cell family consists of twelve people who have committed to doing life together.

Monday, August 25, 2008

Don't pee on it

First thing - I need to apologize to my mother. Mom I know that you read my blog and probably don't favor the title. But I had to title it like this. This is a very important post. I don't want anyone to miss, forget, or to be comfortable with it.

I received an email today that read like this:

"Handle every situation like a dog.
If you can't eat it or play with it,
Pee on it and walk away."


I wonder what would have happened if Jesus took this approach when he faced the roman soldiers and the cross?

Or I wonder what would have happened if Roy Henson would have responded this way?

Do you know the story of Roy? Roy has cerebral palsy and has spent his life in a wheelchair. In February, Roy stood up without assistance and it motivated him to begin strengthening his legs...

During his training a stressful situation arose.

“I was trying to walk one evening at the Central football field and I had on a Relay T-shirt,” Henson said. “When I fell, I started looking at the shirt, then the field, then the shirt again, and it was one of those, ‘What if I...’ moments.”

Next Friday, September 5th... Roy is going to walk
immediately following the Central vs. St. Vincent football game. And for every yard that he walks, sponsors are donating money to the American Cancer Society.

Roy faced a stressful situation. A trying situation. A frustrating situation. But Roy isn't a dog. Roy is a man.

I wish you would not have read this post. Yes, you. Because now you have to dig deep. I wish you would not have read this post because I know how a majority of people respond to stressful situations. They pee on them. They pee on them and try to get others to as well to justify their feelings and actions.

You are not a dog. Don't pee on them. It doesn't work.



Luke 8:15 "But the seed on good soil stands for those with a noble and good heart, who hear the word, retain it, and by persevering produce a crop." (NIV)

Please visit these links.

Roy Henson - Daily Journal Article
Roy Henson for 50 yards - Myspace page

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Baptizing Friends

Matt Parks
Justin Pobst
August 2nd, 2008

Sometimes I think about where I was 10 years ago, and then move forward to where I am now. I could not be luckier. Tonight, I cry tears of joy.


Baptism 08-02-08 from Roger Durbin on Vimeo.

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Pictures from Celebration


Pic from 8/17 (I spoke about Judgment)
Luke 12


Pic from 8/10 (The six woes - Luke 11)


Pic from 8/10
I said a dirty word... "religion"

Monday, August 18, 2008

Daily 2 Minute Audio Devotions

I posted five daily two minute devotions on the subject of Prayer on the Bridge Blog. You can listen to them by clicking here.

Monday - What is prayer?
Tuesday - Why should I pray?
Wednesday - Does God always answer my prayers?
Thursday - How do I pray?
Friday - When should I pray?

Check them out on the Bridge Blog.

Friday, August 15, 2008

Books - My Reading List


I've had several people from church ask me what books I'm currently reading. I thought I would post my list here on the blog along with what my wife is currently reading at the bottom. Now, don't laugh. I usually read 2-3 books at a time and process information in junks rather than reading entire books quickly.

Currently Reading:

  • Unfinished Business: Returning the Ministry to the People of God - Greg Odgen
  • Shape - Erik Rees
  • Idols of the Heart - Elyse Fitzpatrick
  • The Book on Leadership - John MacArthur

Just Finished Reading:
  • The Story of Christian Theology - Roger E. Olson
  • Church History in Plain Language - Bruce Shelley
  • Planting Missional Churches - Ed Stetzer
  • In a Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day - Mark Batterson
  • Facing Your Giants - Max Lucado

Read in the last Six Months
  • Biblical Hermeneutics - Corley, Lemke, and Lovejoy
  • Living by the Book (Revised and Updated) - H. Hendricks, W. Hendricks
  • The Moody Handbook of Theology - Enns (for a class)

Becky's Current Reading:
  • From Novice to Expert: Excellence and Power in Clinical Nursing - Benner
  • Philosophy of Religion - Stephan Evans
  • Epistemology: Becoming Intellectually Virtuous - Jay Wood
  • Ethcis: Approaching Moral Decisions - Arthur Holmes
  • A preface to Philosophy - Mark B. Woodhouse
  • My Husband Wants to be a Church Planter -So what does that make me?

Becky's books look very boring. I just thought I would point that out. :-)

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Church Rejects 600,000


I just read an article from firstcoastnews.com about a church rejecting a $600,000 donation which was being given from a man's lottery winnings.

Here is an excerpt.

ORANGE PARK, FL -- After Robert Powell hit the Florida Lottery jackpot last month and took home more than $6 million, he thought of his church.

And he offered to drop his tithe, around $600,000, in the collection plate of First Baptist Orange Park.

But the church and Pastor David Tarkington politely declined and told Powell they will not accept the lottery winnings.

Many churches do not approve of the lottery and gambling but on the other hand Pastor Dr. Lorenzo Hall of the El-Beth-El Divine Holiness Church says $600,000 can do a lot of good.

"I'm against the lottery, but if one of my members won the lottery, I wish and I hope he would give 10% to the church, we could do a lot of things with that money," says Hall.

What are your thoughts?

Commentary from gotquestions.org

"Many people claim to be playing the lottery or gambling so that they can give the money to the church, or to some other good cause. While this may be a good motive, reality is that few use gambling winnings for godly purposes. Studies show that the vast majority of lottery winners are in an even worse financial situation a few years after winning a jackpot than they were before. Few, if any, truly give the money to a good cause. Further, God does not need our money to fund His mission in the world. Proverbs 13:11 says, “Dishonest money dwindles away, but he who gathers money little by little makes it grow.” God is sovereign and will provide for the needs of the church through honest means. Would God be honored by receiving donated drug money, or money stolen in a bank robbery? Neither does God need or want money that was "stolen" from the poor by the temptation for riches."

My issue with the lottery/gambling. It is/becomes an idol of the heart. Idolatry is a sin. How? $5 on the lottery can easily become $10 and so on and so on. Many then move to place their hope and desires in something other than God. And it is basically covetness. Which the Bible calls a sin.

Here is an interesting commentary from, Tim Gray. " Basically, gambling is covetness. There is a pool of money out there and we don't trust that God will give us a sufficient amount of it to be able to live in Biblical contentment (or it is greed because we think that we deserve to live better), so we attempt to increase our material ability without Him. God does not use gambling to issue His wealth. He will always choose solid distribution methods."


So again, what are your thoughts? What would you do?

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Water 4 Water

Water4Water is a non-for-profit company with the sole purpose to raise funds to provide clean water to those who are without. The concept is simple. Purchase a bottle of water for $1 and the entire "profit" (100%) is donated to build clean water wells.



They are partners with Blood:Water Mission, which takes funds to build fresh water wells in places where clean water is non-existant. This organization sells bottles of water for $1 to raise the funds.

Water4Water was started by my good friend Justin Pobst and I want you all to know about it. Parallax View will be selling the bottled water at all of their shows from this point on.

Want to find out more? Check out these links and articles.

SE Missourian Article
KFVS12 Interview
Water4Water.net

Friday, August 8, 2008

August, 9 2003 - 5 years gone by



Tomorrow, Becky and I will celebrate our five year anniversary. On August, 9th 2003 we tied the knot at Memorial UMC in Farmington, MO and then flew off to Puerto Vallarta, Mexico for our honeymoon. As you can tell from the pictures, we looked just a little bit different five years back!

A lot has changed, but my love for Becky has not.

A lot has changed:
  • May 10, 2005 Brylee Grace Durbin was born
  • March 5th, 2006 we planted The Bridge Community Church
  • May 6th, 2008 Halle Reese Durbin was born
  • I've moved from working for para-church organizations to the local church, and Becky is currently an ICU nurse
  • We've gone from living in a trailer to having a nice home for our family

A lot is changing:
  • Becky is back in college with hopes of becoming a Nurse Practitioner
  • I am STILL in college working towards a Master of Divinity
  • We are now raising two beautiful girls
  • I'm figuring out how to balance family, church, and music

A lot hasn't changed:
  • I still love Becky with my whole heart
  • I still smile when she talks in her sleep to random people
  • I still trust
  • We still serve Christ.

Now, let me let you in on a secret. When I proposed to Becky at Union University in Jackson, TN... I told her that I wanted to grow old with her. We even joked about playing shuffle board in FL. I still want to grow old with her, but I have no desire to move to FL, retire, and play shuffle board. We have no interest in ever retiring from the ministry of God. When we pass, we want to be able to say that we gave it all for God. We understand now that the harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few. And we want to be the laborers. It is going to be interesting to see how this plays out in the next 50 years of our marriage.

Tomorrow, we celebrate five years of marriage honoring our covenant that we made with God. Some things have changed, but one thing never will. I love you Becky!

Saturday, August 2, 2008

10 Issues

For a class I was asked to outline 10 issues (with explanation) that I believe are imperative for the church take note of in order to become the kind of church God has designed it to be. These issues are an outflow of my thoughts as I have have grown up in church and have been in ministry for the past eight years. Not all of the ideas are my own unique thoughts.


1."We're called to make disciples … not members."
I find it clear in the great commission that Jesus has called us to make disciples, baptizing them, and teaching them to obey all that I have commanded. However, membership in local churches seems to be more about identification or right moral standing than actual discipleship. I could care less whether I have 1,000 members on our church role if they are not committed.

We have covenant Membership at the Bridge. We do this to make our focus on discipleship, and not on how many members we can place on our roles.


2.“Get attenders out of a bib, and into an apron.”
A true disciple of Jesus Christ will serve. Please reference Matthew 25:34-40.

“Then the King will say to those on his right, 'Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.' "Then the righteous will answer him, 'Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?' "The King will reply, 'I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.'

We have enough pew-sitters. True disciples of Jesus Christ will serve the weak and neglected. They will be trained, discipled, and sent.
They will do it as outflowing of the love of God in their hearts as displayed in the world.

3.“Discipleship occurs exponentially in smaller groups, and progresses slowly in large groups.”

I have found that the “teaching them to obey my commands” part of the great commission happens exponentially quicker in the context of small groups as opposed to large group (Sunday morning sermon). There is something about doing life together, sharing in a small group, and studying scripture with a group of 6-12 that has more of an impact then soaking in a service with 400 others.

4.“Church is the people of God, not a building”
Church is not a place that we go, it is the people of God wherever they are at. While I believe that the weekend service, teaching, training, and worship is ABSOLUTELY Biblical (we all need each other and have different spiritual gifts to use), we MUST be training attenders to be the church in the world and not just hide inside the four temple walls.

5.“It is time to stop compartmentalizing our faith.”
The American church tends to compartmentalize faith. By this I mean that we section off our lives to include: soccer, school, work, church, baseball, shopping, fishing, small group, beauty time, family time, and quiet time. Faith should be the center of every aspect of our lives. It should be more than a compartment on a pie chart. It should be the center of our lives with everything else an outflowing of our faith in Christ.

6.“Every member MUST be a minister. Every member is a minister doesn't cut it.”
The American church reminds me too much of an NBA basketball game. How? At an NBA game there are about 20,000 people desperately in need of exercise, watching ten people desperately in need of rest. This is how much of the American church operates. There are 1000 pew sitters, watching 10 people do a majority of the work. I greatly value the Biblical fact that every member is a minister and now it is time to put some teeth to it.

7. “Parents are responsible to train their children in the faith, not just send them off to children's ministry.”
I think we need to re-think the way most children's ministries operate. Our church is moving to a new model this fall where we will have a family service once a month where we train the parents how to teach their children the monthly curriculum. We will still have a Bridge Kids time each Sunday morning, but the main trainer of the child will be the parent. Thus children's ministries should spend just as much budget on training parents as on teaching children. And a church should definitely spend four times more on training parents than on offering a VBS.

8.“Missions is more than something you write a check for.”
There has been an simplistic understanding that supporting missions or “doing” missions work can be deduced to writing and sending checks. I believe that the church needs to be a sending agent of people, not just money. I do think that there are special people who are called to mission work full-time, but all disciples of Christ should feel compelled to physically go on a mission trip and will grow exponentially through the obedient service.

9.“Missions work should be developmental.”
I have recently changed my mind about missions work. Providing a band-aid for those in need is not enough; simply providing aid doesn't cut it. Neither does sharing a message and leaving them to figure out the rest of life on their own. We are to work long term with those in need. We need to teach them the faith and how to live. I am fond of the model Project Chacocente has developed. This project takes people off a dump in Managua, Nicaragua and literally re-introduces them to society. Those coming off the dump commit for five years to build their own home, be trained in four trades, get an education, and be taught the faith. They are providing long-term assistance and not one time aid. This is proving to be an invaluable discipleship strategy as well. I just experienced five families graduating the mission and receiving the titles on their home.

10.“Church is not a democracy.”
I figure that this will be my most controversial statement. However, throughout the Bible God speaks to leaders who then teach the people. I can not find an example of this occurring the opposite way. If you can find in the Bible where a prophet or Biblical leader, goes and meets with the people and lets them vote on what's God's will is, and then after democratically taking a poll proceeds with the “church ministry,” I'll consider changing my mind. I feel that church is really a theocracy led by God and then guided and instituted by the elders.

Friday, August 1, 2008

What's important


The trip to Nicaragua is still changing my life. I've began to realize what is important and what is not from this trip.


Take for instance I've learned that:




  • People in need are important, and people who are power hungry are not.
  • Relationships are important, and the Cardinals are not.
  • Family is important, and work is meant to support them not take away from them.
  • DOING ministry is important, and church politics are not.
  • People will do stupid things behind your back. Good thing my identity is found in Christ and not people.
  • Giving is important, and hoarding is selfish.
  • Commitment IS important and will show itself.
  • Busyness (or a hectic life) is a sin. It stunts growth.
  • I really don't need much to live.
  • Honesty is important.
  • Being comfortable is a scary place to live and tends to turn to selfishness
  • Christ's agenda is important, and my agenda is not.
  • I live to please God, not please people.


So, I'm sitting here at 6:00 AM this morning and I have something to say. What is important in life is to find God's will and then pursue it like crazy. This trip is helping me to discover it more and more. It is causing me to just sit and listen at His feet.

Romans 12:1-2
"So, dear brothers and sisters,I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect."