A Tall Glass of Toilet Water
Job 31:1, Jeremiah 2:13, Matthew 5:27,28
1 Thess. 4:3-8, Proverbs 5
April 29th, NIGHT session
Benjamin Durbin
I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully
at a young woman. – Job 31:1 (NIV)
The Big Idea: Beneath
the sin of pornography lies a lustful heart that was created to be satisfied by
Jesus and be a one-woman man.
The Cultural
Epidemic:
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There are over 100,000 websites offering child pornography
(2002). (Real Marriage, 149)
·
“A total of 69% of all boys experienced first
exposure between the ages of 10 and 14 while 68% of all girls faced first
exposure from ages 13 and up, and over one-third of those girls, or 39%, never
saw porn until after their 16th birthday. Put another way, 8 out of
10 boys (81%) were exposed to porn before they left 8th grade compared to only
half (52%) of the girls.” - Leahy, Porn University, 55.
·
It is
estimated that the average US citizen sees or hears 3,000 advertisements each
day, many of which appeal to sexuality. - Rosalind Gill, “Supersexualize Me!:
Advertising and the ‘Midriffs’” in Mainstreaming Sex: The Sexualization of
Western Culture (London: I. B. Taurus, 2009), 95.
·
The largest consumers of porn are teenage boys
between the ages of 12 and 17.
·
70% of men ages 18 to 34 visit a porn site
monthly
·
1 in 6 women now struggle with a porn addiction
·
50% of pastors regularly look at porn
·
Every second 28,258 people view porn
What is the
Biblical problem with viewing porn?
Lust = Adultery
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit
adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful
intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
(Matthew 5:27-28 ESV)
Rather than drinking from God’s streams of living water,
with porn we try to satisfy our thirst with man-made toilets.
for my people have committed two evils: they have
forsaken me, the fountain of living
waters, and hewed out cisterns for themselves, broken cisterns that can hold no
water.
(Jeremiah 2:13 ESV)
Stop drinking toilet water.
Stop drinking toilet water.
What is God’s
warning against adultery? See all of
Proverbs 5
Verses 1-2 --- Drink from the living wisdom of God's word
Verses 3-6 --- Lust is alluring but deadly
Verse 7 --- Reminder to listen to God's instruction, drink from His living water
Verse 8 --- Avoid every lustful opportunity, don't play with fire
Verses 9 -14 - The effects of not drinking from God's wisdom are told
Verse 9 - Your honor is given away, years taken from your life
Verse 10 - Your strength is given away, what you have labored to build is given away to another man
Verse 11 - The total wasting away of body and soul
Verse 12 - You awaken to your senses and are reminded of God's warning
Verse 13 - You beat yourself up
Verse 14 - Your integrity is destroyed in the assembled people of God
Verse 15 - God's living water, his plan for sex. Have it with your wife
Verse 16 - A pointed question. Do you want your wife to be shared with others?
Verse 17 - The answer. No, you do not want her to be shared with others.
Verse 18 - 19 - Look at your wife. Enjoy your wife. Let her body fill your thoughts and affections
Verses 20-23 - What happens if you give in to lust and adultery. It ends in death. Death of relationship with spouse. Death in your finances. Death in your spiritual life.
For a man's ways are before the eyes of the LORD, and he
ponders all his paths. The
iniquities of the wicked ensnare him, and he is held fast in the cords of his
sin. He dies for lack of discipline, and because of his great folly he is led
astray. (Proverbs 5:21-23 ESV)
More warnings and practical instruction from Proverbs 6.
Do not desire her beauty in your heart, and do not let her capture you with her eyelashes; for the price of a prostitute is only a loaf of bread, but a married woman hunts down a precious life. Can a man carry fire next to his chest and his clothes not be burned? Or can one walk on hot coals and his feet not be scorched? So is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife; none who touches her will go unpunished. People do not despise a thief if he steals to satisfy his appetite when he is hungry, but if he is caught, he will pay sevenfold; he will give all the goods of his house. He who commits adultery lacks sense;he who does it destroys himself.
(Proverbs 6:25-32 ESV)
What is God’s will
for your life?
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that
you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control
his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the
Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in
this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you
beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity, but
in holiness. Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who
gives his Holy Spirit to you.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 ESV)
1. Sanctification – 1 Thess. 4:3 -- We are to be set apart in the area of sexual immorality.
2. Disciplined holiness vs. out-of-control lust – 1
Thess. 4:4-5
3. Brotherly Accountability – 1 Thess. 4:6-8 -- There is no such thing as secret sin and Jesus will avenge.
Practical Advice:
ANTHEM: Fighting Strategies For Lust
• A – AVOID the sights and situations that arouse
unfitting desire. (2 Tim 2:22; Rom 13:14)
• N – Say no to every lustful thought within five
seconds. (James 4:7)
• T – TURN the mind forcefully toward Christ as a superior
satisfaction. (Titus 2:12)
• H – HOLD the promise and the pleasure of Christ firmly
in your mind until it pushes the other images out. (Heb 3:1)
• E – ENJOY a superior satisfaction. (Ps 90:14)
• M – MOVE into a useful activity away from idleness and other
vulnerable behaviors. (Rom 12:11; 1 Cor 15:58)
Resources:
FREE ebook: Porn Again Christian by Mark Driscoll
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