Thursday, February 28, 2013

Full Abandon

Bridge Faith Family, 

This Sunday we celebrate seven years of gospel work together! More than ever I am committed to making disciples who make more disciples for His fame. The early church was fiercely committed to Jesus because they knew how full life was with the one who relentlessly pursued them. Their very reason for living had changed and due to this they radically abandoned their lives for something far better. They found true life in Christ. We can too!!!! 

Following Jesus did mean radical abandon for the early church and it still means that for us today. BUT, more than duty, this is an overwhelming delight. What could possibly bring more meaning to life than following Jesus? 

I can't wait to preach Acts 5;12-42. Please take a few moments on Friday or Saturday to read ahead.  I am going to share 14 signs of life in the early multiplying church, share a  battle cry for 2013, and challenge everyone to make six commitments as we head into year eight!

I desire to passionately pursue life in Christ with full abandon, then when they put me in the ground,  live forever

Please join me. 

--pastor ben

Monday, February 25, 2013

Self-Help Is No Help Really

I preached a strong message yesterday. Looking back on it, I agree, it was strong. Being an introvert at heart, something such as that is never "easy" for me. My introverted tendencies may surprise you, but I am much better in front of large crowds than one on one or in small groups. So as I would rather go back to reading books and writing future sermons, I want to first be self-critical. I am a sinner in need of grace.  But by God's grace I am fiercely committed to the gospel as well as committed to seeking the protection of the local church I shepherd. 

Paul's words to the Ephesian elders in Acts 20 fuel me. This passage below and 2 Timothy 3-4 often keep me awake at night.

Therefore I testify to you this day that I am innocent of the blood of all, for I did not shrink from declaring to you the whole counsel of God. Pay careful attention to yourselves and to all the flock, in which the Holy Spirit has made you overseers, to care for the church of God, which he obtained with his own blood. I know that after my departure fierce wolves will come in among you, not sparing the flock; and from among your own selves will arise men speaking twisted things, to draw away the disciples after them. Therefore be alert, remembering that for three years I did not cease night or day to admonish every one with tears. And now I commend you to God and to the word of his grace, which is able to build you up and to give you the inheritance among all those who are sanctified. I coveted no one's silver or gold or apparel. You yourselves know that these hands ministered to my necessities and to those who were with me. In all things I have shown you that by working hard in this way we must help the weak and remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’” (Acts 20:26-35 ESV)

Today, I want to share why I believe self-help driven teachings are ultimately no help. This was not the focus of the message yesterday, but it was a part that caused some cordial discussion in the social media world.  I realize that this may not be not be popular, but I do think it is needed or I would simply let it fall as it may. I also realize that when one posts a message like this you may get accused of being a sin obsessed-Pharisee that doesn't believe in the power of prayer. I'll get to that later. Or being an angry little man. I'll get to that later as well.

The Background: Acts 4 - the religious leaders of the day try to stop Peter and John from proclaiming the gospel. They did so by attempting to discredit a miracle, stop others from seeing the disciples had been with Jesus, and by threatening them that they must adapt their message from being Jesus (gospel) centered to being about anything else. I then shared that I believe that this is still a major tactic of satanic scheming today and a very good one at that. This plan to stop the movement and multiplication of disciples involves getting preachers/teachers to rely on manufactured strategy rather than the supernatural God, allowing church attenders to believe you can meet Jesus and not be changed and made different in some way (progress will happen), and by changing the content of the message to not be gospel centered thus removing it from its power (Romans 1:16). Sounds ok right?

Then I shared in essence that I believe this is all very rampant in our day. We are often taught to only think rational and deny the supernatural. We are often offended by scripture that declares that God doesn't leave us to our sin but is changing us and calling us to lead lives of grace-driven effort. And that I DO think many popular teachings are dangerous and often gospel-less.

And here is why. Messages that focus on the necessity to go self-actualize your potential, speak your future into existence, or think positively and your life will follow are actually LAW not GRACE.

I do believe that many who proclaim these sorts of teachings weekly sincerely want to help people who feel beaten down by life and who feel guilty for their failures and mistakes. But the “positive” message is in actuality this: Do better. Try harder. Believe you can succeedIn other words,  just do it! God will help you, of course, but you have to make it happen. 

Though many proclaim these are positive sermons, I believe they are  negative. It is like telling the aids orphan to “just snap out of it!” Or  giving people burdened by sin, guilt and despair more reason to despair when they fail to succeed, lose health, or their spoken words are not actualized (which by the way is Carl Roger's Humanism--more on that later)

I do not think that more willpower will solve our real problem. That message is Law--what the Pharisees clung to over Jesus'  sacrificial death for sinners. It shouts, "You must perform!" There is no actual gospel in this message, even if you attach Jesus' name to it.  It is frankly more reminiscent of a Care Bears episode, a Nike slogan, or the american dream.  The only “good news”  in that message is telling self-centered people (of which I am one) to look for salvation in more narcissism.  And I believe it is ultimately speeding up death.

Those are strong words...

What about the power of our words?
Below is an excerpt of teaching from Jared Wilson that helps us think rightly about this question. You can read his full post here. 

There are three biblical ways words can bring life:

1. We can generally agree that the tongue is a powerful force. Just read James 3. But you don’t have to be a charismaniac to realize that words can hurt or comfort. Encouragement edifies; nagging and criticism do not. Many of us still carry wounds from words said to us in our past.
2. Also, those of us of the Reformed persuasion are quick to affirm the supernatural power available in the written Word of God spoken. The gospel is power. When God speaks, things happen. And the Holy Spirit uses the foolishness of preaching to stir dead men’s souls and waken sleeping men’s senses.
3. Those of us of the continuationist persuasion can agree that God sometimes heals people through humbly administered gifts of healing and the laying on of hands, and nearly all Christians can agree that God sometimes heals people through the effectual prayers of the saints. In both cases things change when words are spoken, but in neither case is the speaker’s tongue the source of creative power. God is.

In all three of those senses, speaking words is powerful and life-giving. But in no biblical sense is merely speaking words God’s way of creating material or medical prosperity. In no sense is this formulaic. In other words, it does not follow that if someone is experiencing major setbacks it is because they aren’t “speaking words of prosperity over” their lives. Likewise, it does not follow that everyone who does speak such words will reap circumstantial goodness.

Jared goes on to write....

The gospel doesn’t traffic in circumstantial goodness. Most of the New Testament, in fact, presupposes circumstantial badness.

The Word of Faith view of the power of the tongue is owed more to the world of The Secret or genies in rubbed lamps.

So, what do we call the idea that by speaking certain words you can create realities? That’s called incantation. That’s called sorcery. It’s called witchcraft. And that is a damnable offense.

To put it simply, it is the object of our faith rather than the quality of our words that is ultimately determinate. We are to pray, ask, and call on God and give Him glory for the "yes," or trust His "no."

If you take the word of faith movement to its logical conclusion, a parent must take the blame if a child dies of disease. Do you feel the crushing weight of that law?

Biblical Gospel or Humanism? 
I am deeply convicted that Biblical gospel preaching is much different than humanism. Humanism focuses on the inherent good inside of us and human potential. This sounds terrific. But the biblical diagnosis of the heart apart from the supernatural grace of God is bleak. 

The heart is deceitful above all things,and desperately sick; who can understand it? - (Jeremiah 17:9 ESV)

Our heart apart from God's grace tricks us and deceives us into thinking that our desires are pure. It tells us that what we want is good and that God approves. However, many of our ways seem right in our own eyes but still lead to death and Hell. We must be mindful. 

From Jesus' lips, 

For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander. These are what defile a person. But to eat with unwashed hands does not defile anyone.” - (Matthew 15:19-20 ESV)

We have a heart problem that cannot be corrected by trusting in our own potential or performing simple outward behavioral modification (in fact I have met several morally upright non-Christians).  Our heart must be supernaturally changed by God via the Holy Spirit through repentance and faith (which are two sides of the same coin), as we turn from ourselves and to Christ's sufficient work for us on the cross to satisfy God's wrath and reconcile us to God.  

A few more questions that tend to be brought up...

Is it a sin to be rich? 
This question often gets asked in these discussions. No. Nor is it a sin to have a large church, write books, and take speaking engagements. I have taught out what is below many times. I hope this helps.

Here are some common errors in regards to wealth
1.  Prosperity Theology – teaches those who are rich are more righteous than those who are poor
a.  Jesus instead gives stiff warnings that those with wealth will have a tendency to attempt to base their     justification in works and wealth
b.  In the words of a famous rapper Notorious BIG, “Mo Money, Mo Problems.” (kidding, smile, try not to rap it outloud)
c.  The early disciples were righteous in Christ and lost everything for Him, even their lives.
2.  Poverty Theology – teaches those who are poor are more righteous than those who are rich
a.  When you really think about it, God himself is wealthy. But He is wealthy and generous.
b.  God does use wealthy people in the Bible: Abraham, Solomon, Joseph of Arimethea, and his own ministry is supported by two wealthy women named Johanna and Susanna (Luke 8:3).
c.  Jesus doesn’t say stop creating wealth in this passage. He does say give to the poor and come follow me.
d.  Jesus isn’t against wealth, but He does demand worship and radical generosity from the wealthy.

Is it ever ok to be angry? Are we not called to love our enemies?
Yes and yes. There is righteous anger all throughout the Bible, as well as challenging messages given. And often the most loving thing you can do is guard against error by confronting dangers with conviction. This is different than seeking harm and is actually part of the pastoral task as directed in the pastoral epistles. Hopefully, this is what I did. But remember, I am a sinner in need of grace that has heart issues outside of the supernatural grace of God.  But by God's grace I am fiercely committed to the gospel as well as committed to seeking the protection of the local church that I shepherd. 

Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, -(Ephesians 4:25-26 ESV)

Self-Help is No Help Really??
Why would I choose this title on a post such as this? You certainly can see improvement in your career and personal goal achievement through a stronger work ethic. I shout in agreement that young men need to recover their grandfather's work ethic more than they need to recover their grandfather's clothing style. But sheer will-power pales in helping us deal with the hardest things in life. In these instances we must rely and rest  in God. And self-reliance is wholly opposed to the radical free grace God gives to repentant sinners. .

So Christian...
If you work hard and fail to get the promotion or lose your job due to unforeseen circumstances, God still loves you in Christ. If you go broke and scrape your pennies together to buy canned-goods, God still favors you in Christ. If your path in life involves suffering, remember that Jesus is described as the suffering servant in the Bible (Isaiah and Mark)-- all while God the Father still favored and loved Him.

And if your child develops Spinal-Muscular-Atrophy, and you pray fervently for years to no avail to watch her slowly die, God still loves you and loved her in Christ. 

Note: You can listen to the sermon here

Monday, June 18, 2012

Sermon Notes from "Heart Idols"


The Big Idea: Worship is like a fire hose that has gotten stuck in the “on” position and is endlessly shooting water out with great force. Where are you aiming the hose? What is the focus of your worship?

Worship in the wrong direction
And in his teaching he said, “Beware of the scribes, who like to walk around in long robes and like greetings in the marketplaces and have the best seats in the synagogues and the places of honor at feasts, who devour widows' houses and for a pretense make long prayers. They will receive the greater condemnation.” (Mark 12:38-40 ESV)

Outward actions do not impress God in and of themselves. God sees your heart.
They wanted their dress to be noticed.
They desired vocal recognition
They longed for places of prominence
They hoarded money
They wanted people to view them as HOLY.
They worship self.

Check yourself. Don't we all have similar desires to that of the scribes?
To be first, to be deferred to, to be wealthier, to be recognized?

God sees your heart.
What does your attitude reveal about your heart?
What do you long for?
Where do your desires lie?

Insight #1: We should read this warning thinking that we are in danger of the greater condemnation.

Exposing Heart Idols

Power Idol Approval Idol
  • Control
  • Position
  • Influence
  • Success
  • Strength (exerted)
  • Relationships
  • Achievement
  • Ethnicity
  • Social circles
  • Appearances
Security Idol Comfort Idol
  • Family
  • Finances
  • Protection
  • Religion
  • Safety
  • Future
  • Pleasure
  • Health
  • Freedom
  • Excess
  • Home and vehicles
  • Recreation

Pharisees idols exposed
Power – IN this chapter they have grasped for control, position, and to keep influence
Approval – Dressed to be seen, greetings, seats of honor
Security – Try and hide their weaknesses
Comfort – Devour widows houses (excess)

Insight #2: A good thing becomes a heart idol when we value it more than we value Jesus as our ultimate joy and satisfaction.

Worship in the right direction
And he sat down opposite the treasury and watched the people putting money into the offering box. Many rich people put in large sums. And a poor widow came and put in two small copper coins, which make a penny. And he called his disciples to him and said to them, “Truly, I say to you, this poor widow has put in more than all those who are contributing to the offering box. For they all contributed out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty has put in everything she had, all she had to live on.” - (Mark 12:41-44 ESV)

The widow put in her whole life.
All of her hopes and dreams. Her future.
She wholeheartedly offers herself as an act of worship.

Do I just need to give more? Do more?
The scribes were not applauded by their outward actions and neither is the widow.
There is something deeper at play.
There is poverty of spirit.

Jesus puts it this way:
Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. - (Matthew 5:3 ESV)

Insight #3: No one except those who have the poverty of spirit will enter the kingdom of heaven.

This widow was completely dependent on someone outside of her to meet her needs.

Spiritual poverty likewise is a deep sense that in and of myself before God I am without a means to earn His favor. I have to look for something absolutely outside of “me” for my righteousness.

Insight #4: We are all absolutely poverty stricken before God but some of us are blind to it.

The law/gospe msgl exposes our spiritual poverty.
Before conversion their is conviction of sin.
The law/gospel condemns before it saves.
It convicts before it converts.
It empties before it fills.

Insight #5: I still live by Gods righteousness daily.

The religious hypocrites in this passage miss this.
They think they sin no longer and are righteous by their own merits now.

Insight #6: Just as we need outside food to energize us daily, we need the gospel daily (Jesus' righteousness).

Examine Your Heart:
To what extent is your heart like that of the scribes?

Those who struggle with power feel that they have to be in a position of power and long for it. They are demanding that they have to have the final decision.

Those who struggle with approval, criticism or failure wrecks their week or month. They can't ever relax. They are always craving recognition and envious of others.

Those who struggle with security hide weaknesses and are impatient with others.

Those who struggle with comfort often complain about serving others, giving joyfully, and become restless when asked to stretch themselves.

Apply the Good News to Your Heart:

  1. Power Idol - God is glorious so I don't have to produce results. I don't have to make every final decision. (Psalm 24:8)
  2. Approval Idol – God is gracious so I don't have to prove myself . I can relax. (Psalm 86:16)
  3. Security Idol – God is great, so I don't have to be in control. I can honestly share weaknesses (Psalm 145:3)
  4. Comfort Idol – God is good, so I don't have to look elsewhere for comfort, peace, and fulfillment. I can give freely.(Psalm 34:8)

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Date Night Tips

Have you made the commitment to date your spouse more during The Real Marriage series? I decided to make a list of ideas of things to do and places to go around our neck of the woods. Make sure and head over to read Mark Driscoll's Date Night Tips.  Please share your date ideas in the comment section!

  1. Send the kids to grandma's for the night and stay home with no technology allowed. Find some candles and see if you can make it without lights for the night! No agenda planned. 
  2. Catch a play at The Muny. (Summer)
  3. Try out the ice skating at Forest Park. (Winter)
  4. Go on a hike at Pickle Springs and take a picnic lunch. 
  5. Dress up and head out for dinner date at Chaumette Vineyards and Winery
  6. Go for a drive and enjoy the desserts at The Blue Owl
  7. Giddy-up for a redneck date: go bowling and then catch some catfish under the stars
  8. Watch a movie under the stars at the Starlite Drive-in Theatre in Cadet, MO. 
  9. Meet up for coffee and breakfast at The Bauhaus Kafee before work.
  10. Put on your hiking boots and visit Hickory Canyon
  11. Make a picnic lunch and enjoy the afternoon at Charleville
  12. Go for a walk at one of the area parks and then enjoy some food at 12 West
  13. Instead of taking a lunch break with co-workers, skip the lunch and find a special place to meet up with your spouse.
  14. Look out over The Mississippi River at The Trail of Tears State Park. 
  15. Plan an overnight date at a bed in breakfast in St. Genevieve. 
  16. Head to St. James and spend an afternoon at Maramec Spring Park
  17. Take her for a boat ride at The Boathouse in Forest Park. 
  18. Attend a concert together at Verizon Amphitheater
  19. Enjoy a musical at The Fabulous Fox.
  20. Go for a bike ride at St. Joe State Park
  21. Keep it simple with dinner and a movie.  
  22. Get dressed up and drop some cash at The Top of the Riverfront. 

Monday, April 30, 2012

Teaching Notes: "A Tall Glass of Toilet Water"


A Tall Glass of Toilet Water
Job 31:1, Jeremiah 2:13, Matthew 5:27,28
1 Thess. 4:3-8, Proverbs 5
April 29th, NIGHT session
Benjamin Durbin

I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman. – Job 31:1 (NIV)

The Big Idea: Beneath the sin of pornography lies a lustful heart that was created to be satisfied by Jesus and be a one-woman man.

The Cultural Epidemic:

·         There are over 100,000 websites offering child pornography (2002). (Real Marriage, 149)
·         “A total of 69% of all boys experienced first exposure between the ages of 10 and 14 while 68% of all girls faced first exposure from ages 13 and up, and over one-third of those girls, or 39%, never saw porn until after their 16th birthday. Put another way, 8 out of 10 boys (81%) were exposed to porn before they left 8th grade compared to only half (52%) of the girls.” - Leahy, Porn University, 55.
·          It is estimated that the average US citizen sees or hears 3,000 advertisements each day, many of which appeal to sexuality. - Rosalind Gill, “Supersexualize Me!: Advertising and the ‘Midriffs’” in Mainstreaming Sex: The Sexualization of Western Culture (London: I. B. Taurus, 2009), 95.
·         The largest consumers of porn are teenage boys between the ages of 12 and 17.
·         70% of men ages 18 to 34 visit a porn site monthly
·         1 in 6 women now struggle with a porn addiction
·         50% of pastors regularly look at porn
·         Every second 28,258 people view porn

What is the Biblical problem with viewing porn?

Lust = Adultery

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
(Matthew 5:27-28 ESV)

Rather than drinking from God’s streams of living water, with porn we try to satisfy our thirst with man-made toilets.

for my people have committed two evils: they have forsaken me,  the fountain of living waters, and hewed out cisterns for themselves, broken cisterns that can hold no water.
(Jeremiah 2:13 ESV)

Stop drinking toilet water. 
  
What is God’s warning against adultery? See all of Proverbs 5

Verses 1-2 --- Drink from the living wisdom of God's word
Verses 3-6 --- Lust is alluring but deadly
Verse 7 --- Reminder to listen to God's instruction, drink from His living water
Verse 8 --- Avoid every lustful opportunity, don't play with fire
Verses 9 -14 - The effects of not drinking from God's wisdom are told
Verse  9 - Your honor is given away, years taken from your life
Verse 10 - Your strength is given away, what you have labored to build is given away to another man
Verse 11 - The total wasting away of body and soul 
Verse 12 - You awaken to your senses and are reminded of God's warning
Verse 13 - You beat yourself up
Verse 14 - Your integrity is destroyed in the assembled people of God
Verse 15 - God's living water, his plan for sex. Have it with your wife
Verse 16 - A pointed question. Do you want your wife to be shared with others? 
Verse 17 - The answer. No, you do not want her to be shared with others. 
Verse 18 - 19 - Look at your wife. Enjoy your wife. Let her body fill your thoughts and affections
Verses 20-23 - What happens if you give in to lust and adultery. It ends in death. Death of relationship with spouse. Death in your finances. Death in your spiritual life. 

For a man's ways are before the eyes of the LORD, and he ponders all his paths. The iniquities of the wicked ensnare him, and he is held fast in the cords of his sin. He dies for lack of discipline, and because of his great folly he is led astray. (Proverbs 5:21-23 ESV)

More warnings and practical instruction from Proverbs 6. 
Do not desire her beauty in your heart, and do not let her capture you with her eyelashes; for the price of a prostitute is only a loaf of bread, but a married woman hunts down a precious life. Can a man carry fire next to his chest and his clothes not be burned? Or can one walk on hot coals and his feet not be scorched? So is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife; none who touches her will go unpunished. People do not despise a thief if he steals to satisfy his appetite when he is hungry, but if he is caught, he will pay sevenfold; he will give all the goods of his house. He who commits adultery lacks sense;he who does it destroys himself.
(Proverbs 6:25-32 ESV)

What is God’s will for your life?

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.” (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 ESV)

Sexual immorality = "porneia"  
Porneia = All sexual activity outside of the bounds of a heterosexual marriage relationship.

1.  Sanctification – 1 Thess. 4:3 -- We are to be set apart in the area of sexual immorality.
2.   Disciplined holiness vs. out-of-control lust – 1 Thess. 4:4-5
3.   Brotherly Accountability – 1 Thess. 4:6-8 -- There is no such thing as secret sin and Jesus will avenge. 

Practical Advice:

ANTHEM: Fighting Strategies For Lust
• A – AVOID the sights and situations that arouse unfitting desire. (2 Tim 2:22; Rom 13:14)
• N – Say no to every lustful thought within five seconds. (James 4:7)
• T – TURN the mind forcefully toward Christ as a superior satisfaction. (Titus 2:12)
• H – HOLD the promise and the pleasure of Christ firmly in your mind until it pushes the other images out. (Heb 3:1)
• E – ENJOY a superior satisfaction. (Ps 90:14)
• M – MOVE into a useful activity away from idleness and other vulnerable behaviors. (Rom 12:11; 1 Cor 15:58)

Resources:

FREE ebook: Porn Again Christian by Mark Driscoll

X3Watch: A tool for online integrity and accountability
This tool records questionable websites you visit on your laptop, smart phone, or portable device and reports them to your accountability partner.



Monday, April 23, 2012

"A Tall Glass of Toilet Water"


Bridge Faith Community,

You are part of a culture that spends more money each year on pornography than country music, rock music, jazz music, classical music, Broadway plays, and ballet combined. God tells us that his people tend to satisfy their thirst not by drinking from his streams of living water, but instead drinking from man-made toilets (Jer.2:13). This metaphor is particularly adept in a world where men such as Tom Leykis, Dr. Drew, Howard Stern, and a legion of men’s magazines and porno providers become wealthy by selling glasses of toilet water to thirsty men across our nation, many of whom claim to be sons of God. Meanwhile, the church alone has access to the living water from God’s perfect Word, but largely fails to teach men masculinity in any area, particularly regarding their sexuality.

Join us this Sunday night, April 29th, at 6:00 PM for a special night session called "A Tall Glass of Toilet Water." I will teach on Proverbs 5, Jeremiah 2:13, and Job 31:1 in light of our cultural porn epidemic. On this night we will have a special question and answer session where you can ask any question pertaining to this topic as well as any questions you have regarding our "Real Marriage" series thus far to a panel of men and women.

Women should join their husbands on this evening. Did you know that 1 in 6 women struggle with porn addiction?

There is no childcare for this evening and I do recommend that you secure your own childcare for this night. Please consider joining us. This may be the most important night of your married or future married life.

God bless,
-pastor ben

Friday, April 13, 2012

"Real Marriage" begins at The Bridge Sunday

You don’t need a new spouse; you need to be a new spouse.

This week at The Bridge we begin a new series called, "Real Marriage." For the next six weeks we will look at Biblical marriage, friendship, conflict and our responsibility in view of the Gospel. The Gospel declares that you can have a new marriage with the same spouse; you can defeat Satan in your life and marriage by the blood of the Lamb (Rev. 12:11).

Join us this week for, "New Marriage, Same Spouse" as we look at Ephesians 5:21-33.

Series Preview:
April 15 - "New Marriage, Same Spouse"
April 22 - "Friends with Benefits" - friendship
April 29 morning - "Man Up"
April 29 night - "A Tall Glass of Toilet Water" aka the porn path
May 6 - "The Respectful Wife"
May 13 - "Taking out the Trash" - conflict
May 20 morning - "Sex: God, Gross, or Gift?"
May 20 night - "Rid of My Disgrace" aka dealing with abuse

If you are single and considering skipping out on the next six weeks of the "Real Marriage" series to read Lamentations, please reconsider. 9 out of 10 singles statistically will marry. This is great prep work. Also the teaching on friendship, conflict, idols, and seeing how to openly deal with repentance and confession is well worth it.

Also, there are weekly questions for singles in the cell study who choose to go through it.

I love you all whether you are married, once married, or single!